Boosting Your Emotional Immune System
I have a guest post from a boot camper. Karen is a great example of exactly what we instill at Memphis Adventure Boot Camp. One of my main strengths does NOT involve fitness form or technique, despite the fact I am knowledgable in it. What I specialize in is the psychological aspects of fitness and health and the journey it takes to allow yourself to be a part of the process instead of working against it. When Karen told me her focus in nursing, I became immediately interested in her work and I asked her to write a guest post because she has great insight on these matters. So, the rest of this post is Karen and I hope you enjoy!
Greetings and congratulations to those of you that have taken steps to change your lives through a commitment to healthy eating and a regular exercise plan. I too accompany you on the journey. As a psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, I want to stress the importance of taking care of your emotional needs while you are healing your physical body. As we let go of old patterns of eating (bulk eating, carbohydrate addiction), we may experience emotions at a greater level of intensity since our “drug” is no longer available to us. With that in mind, I have listed some tools that may help boost your emotional immune system as you embark on this journey of balanced eating and a regular exercise plan.
1. Journal every day about what’s “eating” you. Taking time to write what you feeling and thinking is a very validating experience and can help you get to know what is going on inside your internal world—a world you may have been avoiding unknowingly by numbing out with food.
2. Cultivate an attitude of loving kindness toward yourself as you embark on this road of transformation and self-discovery. Treat yourself as you would treat a small child who is learning something new—with patience and forgiveness.
3. Don’t waste time being mad at your fat. Forgive yourself and let it go. Remember that the excess weight served you in some way or you wouldn’t have it. In Sheryl Canter’s book Normal Eating for Normal Weight (p.71-72), she notes that for many, especially women, fat serves a function…
- It can reduce unwanted sexual attention.
- Makes us feel less vulnerable and less likely to be “pushed around.”
- Gives us an excuse to put off things that we are intimidated by.
- In the workplace, switches focus from our “looks” to our performance.
- Makes friendships easier because fat women are not generally considered a “threat.”
- Is a way to express anger (“I’ll show you, I’ll just eat what I want.”).
- Reduces discomfort with intimacy, making it less likely to happen.
- Allows us to test a partner’s affections to make sure we are loved for more than our looks.
- Is a way to rebel against our role in society.
4. Develop a practice of daily meditation to train the “monkey-mind”—that part of our brain that is constantly thinking. Studies have shown that meditation helps to quiet the mind, reduces anxiety, stress, and improves overall health. Start with five minutes a day and work up until you can sit for 30 minutes, just noticing your thoughts. If you would like to experience a guided meditation, you can download free podcasts on I-tunes by entering the search words “free meditation podcasts.”
5. Become aware of cravings and what they are rooted in so you can take care of your needs. “HALT” is a great acronym to remember. Are you really Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired?
6. Choose people to lean on who have the support to give you and who will not sabotage your progress. Remember that even those we love may try to give us “change back” messages out of their own fear of change (“you don’t need to lose anymore weight, you’re too skinny” or “One pizza won’t hurt.”).
7. Build that muscle in your lips that helps you form the two letter word “no.” This can be tricky in the beginning if this was a muscle you never used before. At first, it will require a lot of focus and strength, but don’t give up. The more you use it, the more you will like it, and you will feel stronger on the inside.
8. Every day, give yourself a pat on the back and praise yourself for sticking to your commitment to yourself. Develop a positive affirmation that makes you feel happy inside when you read it and say it to yourself every day. It always begins with an “I am” statement.” Here are some examples:
- “I am healthy and whole”
- “I am a confident, worthy woman/man”
- “ I am okay just the way I am”
- “My body is at it’s perfect weight and size”
- “I am loved and safe.”
- “ I glow with health and aliveness”
- “I am joyful and free.”
- “I am deserving and whole.”
- “It is okay to make mistakes, I am human.”
9. When you feel stuck, remember it’s okay to ask for help.
10. Finally, find ways to give back. The more invested you are in helping others, the more committed you will be to your own progress.
See you all some time in class!!
Karen Diana, APN
Advanced Practice Mental Health Nurse Practitioner
Chamberlin Psychiatric Practice, Cordova, TN










